6. Accept the Facts and Move on

Infidelity is a hurtful situation that causes a lot of pain that lasts for years.  This is a situation that a lot of spouses do not get over.  If this is something you cannot come to terms with, it is in your best interest to move on.  A marriage is forever, and many spouses try to move past this hurtful time.  If you are ready to move on, keep in mind you have to accept the facts of what happened and move on.  You cannot move on unless you can forgive.  Do not confuse forgiving with forgetting.

5. Talk about it

You may not be able to discuss the infidelity matter with your spouse immediately after the truth comes out, but at some point, you both need to sit down and talk about the situation in detail.  You need to discuss how and why it happened.  This will be difficult, but it needs to be done.

4. What Happens After?

Now that you have talked about the situation and how it came about, the next thing you need to discuss is what you and your spouse plan to do going forward.  This is another situation you may not be able to talk about immediately, but it cannot be avoided forever.

3. Keep Everyone out of Your Business

What happens within your relationship needs to stay in your relationship.  It is not the business of your relatives or friends regarding the things that occur within your relationship whether they are good or bad.  You may need someone to talk to, and that’s understandable, so seek out someone who does not have loyalties to you or your spouse so you will get an honest opinion instead of a biased opinion.

2. Coming to Terms with Things

Coming to terms with the situation and the things that have happened will be difficult.  You may have to deal with sleepless nights and loss of appetite for a few days until everything sinks in and you are ready to come to terms with what has happened and decided how you will proceed with the relationship.  You should not put a time limit on the time it will take for you or your spouse to come to terms with what has happened.  When your spouse is ready to move on, they will know, and so will you.  It is in your best interest to give your spouse time and space to come to terms with things on their own.

1. Falling in Love Again

When infidelity takes place, the last thing you or your spouse are thinking about is falling in love again.  It may seem far-fetched at first, but as time passes and you both talk to each other about the relationship itself and moving forward, you may be surprised how easy it is to fall in love again with the person you married.